Ye-ah, our little guy is growing up. A week before he turned two, we bought him a twin mattress set, which we call his βbig boy bed.β As soon as we set it down on the floor, he was eager to stretch out on it and make imitation snoring sounds, expressing lucidly that it was βa place to lie down.β Weβve just started giving him the choice of the bed or the crib and heβs loving the new bed (so far heβs fallen out only once).
Valor read a story about making banana bread in his Highlights magazine, and suddenly the time was right for his first βrealβ cooking lesson on Mommyβs Blueberry Banana Bread. It was a challenge to keep him from dropping his plastic eggs in the batter, but he did a good job stirring. And licking the leftovers!
In adult news, rewinding back to the beginning of September, we were very privileged to host at the House of Gjertsen our friends Matt & Breanna, and their little daughter Elinor. They are presently waiting on visas to move to one of the places on earth where the people do not have the Bible in their language, and they have the courage, linguistic aptitude, and big God to do something about it. Itβs great to have friends like these, to get an front-line of what the mission of the church is. Especially after weβve moved away from Orlando Grace Church to a place that isnβt quite as global missions-aware.
Anyhow, Matt and Breanna were raising financial support to go on mission, and Abby organized a couple of social opportunities to introduce them to friends in New Bern and Morehead City. In New Bern, we hosted a βSweeter-than-Honey Dessert Nightβ based on Psalm 119:103: βHow sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth!β The spread included little white chocolate bees and sopapilla cheesecake bars that Breanna painstakingly cut into honeycomb hexagons.
Crafty, isnβt she?
Just before they left, Matt & Breanna got word that their monthly support had reached 100%! Theyβre now waiting on visas and preparing for their new adventure. We look forward to reuniting with them on a furlough in the future.
Valor tears off in second gear (4.6 mph) on βJohnny Tractorβ aka βJohnanahβ most every day. The weather is excellent; we just need bug spray for the mosquitos.
A week or two ago, Abbyβs friend Angie visited from Florida for a few days with her two boys, Arrow (5) and Stone (3). Valor did a terrific job sharing Johnny and the iPad with them. Although they liked to call him βBaby Valor,β her boys gave him a good education on being a Big Boy. I got to cart all three around in the back seat of my car, while Abby got some great quality time with Angie in the other car. She said they had some really great talks. In my car it was mostly Arrow counting to really large numbers. Morehead City has never seemed so long a drive. π Β She taught us some new worship songs, and we were able to take the kids off her hands for her to have some βsurf therapy,β thanks to some generous church peeps.
On September 28, we had our appointment with a geneticist, who was possibly going to tell us that there was some kind of data on one or both of our genomes that could be linked to two lost pregnancies and possibly even the conditions that James was born with. And maybe it would have seemed like bad news if they did have some results that would discourage us from trying for more biological children. But thatβs what we were prepared to hear.
However, like this overdue blog post, the appointment was anticlimactic.
After several months of waiting for the next available appointment, I took a half-day off of work so that we could both drive to Greenville (50 miles), wait for over an hour in a waiting room, and finally hear the geneticist and her assistant tell us that:
- Our own homozygosity was 3% (John) and 3.4% (Abby), but there was no correlation between any of them and the homozygosity observed in Carolinaβs genome (also 3%).
- None of our affected areas suggested anything related to Jamesβs diagnoses.
- They were not able to run the test of Jamesβs banked blood sample, but a second attempt was still in process at the NIH.
- They donβt even believe that 3% homozygosity is all that unusual since they started running this test more frequently and see perfectly normal people with up to 11% homozygosity.
So basically, the needle in the haystack was not found. As cool as genetics is, it is not yet mature enough a field of study to provide much useful information. The good part is that itβs not a really terrible diagnosis that will hang over our heads. The bad part is, weβve been waiting for months for this information and we donβt know anything more than we did the day we lost Carolina.
At that point we just tried to open our hearts to accept whatever God has in mind to grow the House of Gjertsen. Healthy babies, unhealthy babies, babies in heaven, adopted children? We are in His hands, and He knows what is best.
WOHOO!!! :)Praying for you all!
Awesome to get the first comment from Down Under! A late night for me, and an early start for you, I suppose.
It’s about Mid day here so it’s not too early or late… I saw your post pop up on facebook and I must say after watching that adorable video I sung out in joy π Though you were only part of your family for a short time when we were very young, you’re precious to us and by extension, so is Abby and all your babies π I hope one day to see you all in person π
Glad to see a post from you. Your little boy is already so big- I can hardly believe it. I’m sorry you didn’t get more information from your tests, but I admire the faith and courage you have. I wish you all the best.
I always enjoy reading your posts. I can’t believe how big Valor has gotten since your last post!
The last video caught me by surprise. I am excited and will be praying for your family.
Love from the west coast!
Debbie
YAY!
You wacky Gjertsens!!
Congratulations! Praying that everything progresses smoothly and that your bundle of joy arrives safely in June!
What glorious news!! What a great way to announce your special news! We’ll be praying!!
yay! also, love the cute video versus having to solve a puzzle π
Your updates are always fun and informative. Typical Gjertsen style, it was a very creative way to announce your latest expectation!! God’s faithfulness abounds.
I LOVE it! Of course, very creative…but no puzzle for me and Mike this time. Praying for you all!
What?!?! sooo fun!! Valor IS a big boy. Love hearing him talk. Praising God for the gift of this new baby! Praying for you all
YAY!!!!!!! Congratulations! So excited and so happy for the three of you! Love and miss you all! π
Rejoicing for you. And praying peaceful, hopeful months ahead.
So glad that my internet signal was strong enough to watch the video at the end! As a follower of your blogs for over 2 years (!!), I am so VERY EXCITED to hear your news!! Even though we have never met, I will be praying for you and your family. Blessings to all of you! (and that “Big Boy” of yours is absolutely precious!)
Oh, and thankful that a puzzle was not used. Your puzzles are beastly! π
Love the little bees / honey sweets and Valor on his tractor. Once we got D & E big boy beds, they never came into our room at night again. π
Wow! Glad I got to the VERY end of the video! Congratulations on the sweet baby news and I’ll be praying.
Go Gjertsens!! Miss you guys.
Yay for updates! π Glad to hear you’re all doing well. Praying this new baby arrives safely. π
LOVE all the news…hearing Valor talk, and, of course, the announcement at the end!
Fingers are crossed and prayers are being said for you all, John, Abby and Valor!
Sally
I am so happy for you all. I will say a prayer for you.
We are trying to conceive our first now as well and I will especially keep my fingers crossed that I get to go through this process “with” Abby!
What wonderful news. We will be saying prayers that all turns out. Valor is really getting to be a big boy.
This is wonderful news! That video was the best announcement ever!
I’ve been following you guys since Cake Wrecks posted the link to James and it struck a chord with me. I’ve always had irregular periods, and when my periods started to clot, I went to see the doctor. They told me I have anovulatory periods, which, they said, means I may never be able to get pregnant. I wanted them to do tests to comfirm, but they said they wouldn’t do tests til I’d been trying to concieve for a year. This was quite a few years ago, and now I’ve been married since April, and we’ve been trying to concieve since then. I have this anxiety and worry hanging over me, but then I read your blog and it gives me hope. I’ve got my fingers crossed and we are going to keep trying!
Long time reader and lurker, congratulations on your pregnancy and sending positive thoughts and wishes for the months ahead. π
So excited about your news. Valor is so big and talking so well. Thanks for being so faithful in your update. Praying for you all.
Congratulations! Best wishes and lots of prayers heading your way!
My word!! I just want to jump through the computer and hug ya’ll! How super exciting! You must be filled with such emotion right now. Wow!! Just Wow!!! I Love how you both press on with the Lord at your side and have such wonderful, beautiful faith that He IS leading you right where you should be! God Bless ya’ll and i’ll pray for you!
I am praying so hard for your family, and the new baby. Congrats on the great news!!
Wow! What great news! I pray that we accept God’s will, whatever it turns out to be. I’m sorry that the geneticist didn’t have clear-cut answers, but some things surpass our understanding anyway.
Tonya told me the exciting news last night … I apparently didn’t go to the end of this blog entry! Genetisists have no answers for my daughter either; I do trust that God’s plan is the perfect one … for you and for her. Keep keeping on.
My daughter, 10, was sitting near me and heard my delight as I watched Valor recite scripture in that precious voice……..and then she heard me gasp in joy as Valor announced your pregnancy.
My daughter wondered why I was so affected by this announcement as she had never seen your blog (and the fact that we’ve never met). So I had the joy of sharing Sweet Baby James and Valor with her. Don’t think for a second that James isn’t right in the midst of your family. He is even here in Pennsylvania in my heart….the heart of a woman who never even met him. I’ll be praying happily for your new baby!
Congratulations to you. God is good. All the time.
Love,
Jennifer Alba